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A love letter to women: pt. II

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A Love Letter to Women Pt: II

Lie of society #2: Women hold less value than men

There’s a misconception, one that is ubiquitous globally, a view that drives women to be under appreciated, inadequately loved, overly objectified, and frivolously forsaken.  This view acts as one of the enemy’s powerful tool s in attempt to extensively break us. The view is simple but yet derived from misconceptions, what is this view?

“Women hold less value than men”

Simple and effectively damaging.  This lie transcends races, cultures, politics, continents, our homes and even our own churches.  I’m not going to sit here and speak about the audacity of other’s cultures and try to nitpick their reasoning for mistreatment of women… nope I’m going to get close and personal, and speak directly about American culture.  I’m even going to be transparent on how I as a man have been a contributor to this lie myself.   So brace yourself if you haven’t already because I’d like to derail this morbidly obese lie which sits atop a throne.

Everything American society tells us about women points to a resounding misconception that women hold less value.  It can be seen in almost every construct within our society and culture.  Let’s list some of the common perceptions and practices where women are short changed of the gift they really are:

  1. Women on average are paid less for the same position as a man
  2. Their sports are deemed less valuable because  audiences/viewers see them as less intense
  3. The female figure is constantly being objectified by media, we all see it endlessly every day
  4. Women don’t provide as much support within a family
  5. Women struggle at being leaders in society because of their natural meekness
  6. And this list goes on too long for anybody’s liking so I’ll end it here cause you get the idea

Let’s be real here, women are way more deserving than these degradations.  I too am guilty of upholding these views.  As a Christ following man, one of the hardest paradigms to resist conformity is the physical objectification of women.  As men we can try and hide behind excuses by saying “what she’s wearing is asking for it,” or “women dress slutty so it’s ok to stare.”  Pardon the digression, but com’on men; we have to realize that our selfish and animalistic desires are the fuel that is pumped into society, and our society will produce what it’s people want.

Women are the reflection of our hearts’ desires.  Genesis even states that men weren’t designed to be alone, so God gave us a longing for a companion.  That companion was provided to man as a gift.  We desire their company, we desire their support, we desire their love, and we especially desire their affirmation.  Women are the reflection of our hearts’ desires, so we need to keep our hearts’ desires in check. Too often we don’t. We’ve grown weak hearted and ill minded and because of this women are the ones to step up and bear the burdens men were made by God to endure.

American men have abandoned our women.  We have this imprinted stereotype that men provide, build and protect, but let’s not forget men also abuse, destroy and neglect.  This is why we see an alarming divorce rate with the products being two households and women trying to play the role of mother and father.  Let  Marshall Davis Jones give you a little eulogy of who really plays the role of “father” in our society.

Click here to see today’s definition of “father”

We’ve driven women to this by our under-appreciation of them.  But let me restate something, a good wife is worth more than jewels (Proverbs 31:10).  The rest of Proverbs 31 details the vitality of women within a household and society.  For those who aren’t familiar with it, read below in italicized.

10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than jewels .
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

                Let’s read those lase lines again shall we 🙂

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

You see, women are worthy of our praise! So let us know that we all hold a value, let’s starting acting as beneficiaries to each other so that cooperatively man and women can thrive.

In conclusion:

                Women: respect men and continue to support us in our brokenness.  Be fruitful and compassionate.  Sometimes as men we need more than a kick in our ego’s shin, but a reminder of what and who it is we’re fighting for.   How can you do that?  Be the steadfast hearted woman God made you to be and bring us good not harm (Proverbs 31:12).  Men can be big babies, even the slightest hint of doubt can hinder us in our fallen egotistical nature.

Men:  Cherish and love women, and stop hiding behind excuses (ie she doesn’t respect me).  We are MEN.  God designed us to be tough, we need to stop acting like pseudo men and use the strength He’s bestowed upon us to love our women. Remember Love is a choice, not just a feeling of infatuation.  If you want a women to respect you, love her first.  As Ephesians 5:22-23, 33 states,

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior… However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”

As king David said to Solomon: “Be strong, act like a man, and do and observe what the lord your God requires,” (1 Kings 2: 2-3).

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